Instagram 'ni hatari zaidi kwa afya ya kiakili ya vijana

instagram imeorodheshwa kuwa mtandao wa kijamii ambao una madhara zaidi kwa afya ya kiakili ya vijana.
Katika utafiti uliofanyiwa nchini Uingereza, vijana 1,479 wa miaka kati ya 14 na 24 waliombwa kueleza utathmini wao kuhusu mitandao mbalimbali ya kijamii kwa kuzingatia wasiwasi, mfadhaiko, upweke, dhuluma na sifa za kimwili.
Instagram ndiyo iliyoongoza kwa kuwa na madhara zaidi.
Instagram hujiuza kama jukwaa salama na la kusaidia vijana.
Mashirika ya hisani kuhusu afya ya kiakili yametoa wito kwa kampuni kuimarisha usalama wa watu wanaotumia mitandao ya kijamii.
Utafiti huo uliofanywa na taasisi ya Royal Society for Public Health unasema mitandao ya kijamii inafaa kutambua watu wanaotumia mitandao ya kijamii kwa kupitiliza na pia wale wenye matatizo ya kiakili.
Instagram husena huwa ina huduma na habari za kuwasaidia watu kukabili wanaotekeleza dhuluma na pia hutahadharisha watu kabla ya kutazama ujumbe, picha au video zenye madhara.
Inakadiriwa kwamba 90% ya vijana hutumia mitandao ya kijamii, na hivyo ndio huathirika zaidi.

• Msanii maarufu zaidi katika Instagram
• Cristiano Ronaldo aweka rekodi Instagram
• Mguu uliokatwa, sasa wapata akaunti ya Instagram

Utafiti huo wa mtandaoni uliwauliza washiriki maswali kuhusu iwapo YouTube, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook na Twitter zina madhara kuhusu afya yao na hali yao.
Washiriki walitakiwa waipe alama mitandao ya kijamii kuhusu masuala 14 ya afya na hali yao.
Kwa kufuata vipimo vyao, YouTube ilichukuliwa kuwa yenye manufaa mengi zaidi zaidi katika afya ya kiakili, ikifuatwa na Twitter na kisha Facebook.
Snapchat na Instagram zilikuwa na alama za chini kabisa kwa jumla.
Shirley Cramer, afisa mkuu mtendaji wa RSPH, alisema: "Inashangaza kuona Instagram na Snapchat zikiorodheshwa kuwa na madhara zaidi kwa afya ya kiakili na hali nzuri ya vijana - majukwaa haya mawili sana huangazia sura na sifa nzuri na mtu. Mitandao hii miwili inaonekana kuwafanya vijana wengi wajihisi kwamba hawatoshi au wana mapungufu fulani na hivyo kuwaongezea wasiwasi."

• Mjadala kuhusu afya ya kiakili ya Trump

Wataalamu wanataka hatua kadha zichukuliwe zikiwemo

• Watu kutahadharishwa wanapokaa katika mtandao wa kijamii sana (vijana 70 waliohojiwa waliunga mkono hilo)
• Wanaobainika kuwa na matatizo ya kiakili watambuliwe na waelekezwe kwenye majukwaa ambayo wanaweza kupata usaidizi
• Mitandao ya kijamii kueleza picha ambazo zimehaririwa sana - mfano zinazotumiwa katika mauzo ya bidhaa, picha za wasanii na kadhalika. Mashirika ya matangazo yanaweza pia kutumia alama maalum kuonyesha picha zilizohaririwa sana kwa hiari.

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Love the One You’re With

It can be really hard to love the church. Every Christian, who’s been one for very long, knows this.
The earthly church has always been a motley crew. It’s never been ideal. The New Testament exists because churches, to differing degrees, have always been a mess — a glorious mess of saints still polluted by remaining sin, affected by defective genes, brains, and bodies, and influenced by life-shaping pasts.
This mess rarely looks glorious to us up close. It looks like a lot of sin and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears invested into a lot of futility. It often looks like something we’d rather escape than join.
But this is the way it’s supposed to be. Because the mess is what draws out the one thing that advances the church’s mission more than anything else. And this one thing is why we must not, for selfish reasons, leave the church.

The Church We Didn’t Choose

Jesus’s very first disciples didn’t get to choose each other. Jesus chose them (John 15:16). They just found themselves thrown together.
The very next generation of early Christians didn’t get to choose each other either. They too were thrown together with others they likely wouldn’t have chosen: Palestinian and Hellenistic Jews, Jews and Gentiles, educated and uneducated, slaves and slave owners, impoverished and aristocrats, former zealots and former tax collectors, former prostitutes and former Pharisees.
And Jesus gave these early disciples, and all disciples afterward, an impossible command: love one another (John 15:17). It had to be impossible to obey in mere human power because this love was meant to bear witness of Jesus in the world (John 13:35), and to give visible evidence of the invisible God (1 John 4:12). It had to demonstrate that “what is impossible with man is possible with God” (Luke 18:27).
And Jesus gave his disciples an impossible context in which to carry out this impossible command: the church (Matthew 16:18) — a community of diverse, sin-polluted, defective individuals from all sorts of life-shaping pasts living life together in an impossible love.
Then Jesus gave his church an impossible mission: preach the gospel throughout the whole, God-rejecting, Christ-hating world (Luke 21:17; John 15:18), and plant impossible communities among every people where diverse, sin-polluted, defective individuals from all sorts of life-shaping pasts would live out Jesus’s impossible command to love one another (Matthew 28:19–20).
Impossible love, impossible community, and impossible mission: this is a plan doomed to fail. There’s no way this works, unless a God exists who makes possible the humanly impossible.
And here we are, two thousand years later. The impossible mission has produced impossible communities carrying out this impossible command throughout much of the world. For all the church’s problems, and they are legion, something miraculous is at work here.

Miraculous, Struggling Community

But the church rarely looks miraculous at any given moment. “The church,” as we most directly experience it, looks like the less-than-ideal local church we belong to, made up of ordinary people struggling to get along, struggling to figure out how to “do church” in a world of constant change, and struggling to do its part to fulfill the Great Commission.
Struggling doesn’t look or feel miraculous. It’s fatiguing, frustrating, and at times exasperating. Struggling can make us want to give up.
But we must not give up on the church. Because it’s the messy things — those extraordinarily difficult and painful things that can drive us crazy — that provide the very opportunities for the humanly impossible love of Christ to be exercised, giving visibility to the existence of the invisible God.
According to the New Testament, a church’s success is not measured by the number of its attenders, the size of its budget, the excellence of its event production, or the scope of its public influence. Its success is measured by the quality of its love. A church that most effectively witnesses Jesus in the world pursues love through:

• Honoring each other (Romans 12:10),
• Contributing to meet each other’s needs (Romans 12:13),
• Showing hospitality to one another (Romans 12:13),
• Rejoicing over each other’s joys (Romans 12:15),
• Weeping over each other’s griefs (Romans 12:15),
• Pursuing harmony with each other in spite of differences (Romans 12:16),
• Not excluding the lowliest members (Romans 12:16),
• Submitting to each other (Ephesians 5:21),
• Persistently striving for agreement over thorny issues (2 Corinthians 13:11),
• Using individual freedom in Christ to serve each other (Galatians 5:13),
• Bearing with each other’s weaknesses, foibles, and immaturity (Ephesians 4:2),
• Covering each other’s multitudinous sins with forgiveness (1 Peter 4:8; Colossians 3:13),
• Stirring up each other to press on in the mission of love (Hebrews 10:24),
• And not neglecting to meet regularly together (Hebrews 10:25).

And what calls such love out? Read each line again and ask what situations prompt such opportunities to love. The short answer is: lots of various kinds of struggling. It’s the messy struggles that call out love.
Churches are designed to be communities of impossible love that only work if God is real, and Christ’s sacrifice is real, and heaven is real. In void of love, the community falls apart or degrades into consumer event products, empty formalism, formless “spirituality,” social advocacy groups, or essentially civic gatherings — all dying or dead remains of a past vitality.

Graciously Disappointing Community

Jesus did not design the church to be a place where our dreams come true. Actually, it’s where many of our dreams are disappointed and die. And this is more of a grace to us than we likely realize, because our dreams are often much more selfish than we discern.
Our personal expectations easily become tyrants to everyone else, because everyone else fails to meet them. When we are more focused on how others’ failings and foibles obstruct the ideal community we want to pursue than we are on serving those others and pursuing their good and joy, our expectations can kill love, which impedes the real mission.
Jesus designed the church to be a place where love comes true, where we lay our preferences aside out of deference to others. It is meant to be a living laboratory of love, a place where there are so many opportunities, big and small, to lay down our lives for each other that the love of Christ becomes a public spectacle.
That’s why when it comes to church in this age, the picture of community we should have in our minds is not some utopian harmony, but Golgotha. In living life together, we die every day (1 Corinthians 15:31). We lay down our lives for each other (1 John 3:16).

Love the One You’re With

Over forty years ago, Stephen Stills sang, “If you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with.” Though he certainly didn’t write this with the church in mind, we can draw a redemptive application.
There are numerous legitimate reasons to leave a church, and departures are one more messy opportunity to extend gracious love. But we must have a healthy suspicion of our motives if disillusionment, restlessness, boredom, discontentment, burnout, relational conflict, and disappointed expectations are fueling our impulse to leave. Often these fruits have roots in selfish soil. We must not love the church we can’t be with — that idealized community of our imagination. We must love the one we’re with.
We don’t get to choose the disciples we live with; Jesus does. We get thrown into a motley group of sin-polluted, defective saints, among whom, in our own ways, we are the polluted, defective foremost (1 Timothy 1:15).
What we get is the incredible privilege of and plethora of opportunities for loving these fellow disciples like Jesus loved us. We get to love them, warts and all. Because it is through the mutually self-dying, forbearing, forgiving love warty disciples have for one another that Jesus is most clearly shown to the world and his mission is most powerfully advanced.

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How God Opens the Eyes of the Heart

How does someone who is blind to the glory of God come to see him for who he really is?
To be sure, the natural eyes and ears and brains are part of the process. Without them we cannot even see or hear or construe the natural things that reveal God’s glory: creation, incarnation, gospel, Scripture. But this natural seeing is not decisive in seeing the glory of God. “Seeing they do not see,” Jesus said (Matthew 13:13). Something more than the use of the natural eyes and ears and brains must happen.
The way the apostle Paul puts it is that you must have “the eyes of your hearts enlightened, that you may know” (Ephesians 1:18). This too is strange — the heart has eyes! But perhaps not beyond comprehension.
Most people are at home speaking of “the heart” as something more than the blood-pumping organ in our chest. Such language is not foreign to us. This “heart” is the real us. Intuitively we know that there is more to us than flesh and bones. We know we are not mere chemicals in a sack of skin. We would not talk the way we do about things like justice and love if we didn’t believe that.

Eyes of the Heart

Is it so strange, then, to add to this immaterial personhood the idea of immaterial eyes — “the eyes of the heart”? This inner person, who is the real us, sees and knows things that are not identical with what the eyes of the body can see. Pascal said, “The heart has its reasons, which reason does not know. We feel it in a thousand things” (Pensées). There is a spiritual seeing through and beyond natural seeing. There is a spiritual hearing through and beyond natural hearing. There is spiritual discerning through and beyond natural reasoning.
How, then, may we conceive of what happens when the heart sees the glory of God? I found a clue in the way Paul speaks of our knowledge of the glory of God in nature. On the one hand, Paul says that we all “know God.”
“Although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him” (Romans 1:21). That is astonishing. Everyone knows God! But in other places, Paul emphatically says that by nature people do not know God. For example, “In the wisdom of God, the world did not know God through wisdom” (1 Corinthians 1:21). The “Gentiles do not know God” (1 Thessalonians 4:5). Formerly “you did not know God” (Galatians 4:8; see 2 Thessalonians 1:8; 1 John 4:8).

Who Knows God?

So, what does Paul mean in Romans 1:21 when he says that all human beings “know God”? To answer this, we might simply quote Romans 1:19–20, “What can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made.”
But is that all Paul means when he says, “They knew God”? I think there is more. In Romans 2:14–15, Paul says that people who have never heard of the law of God sometimes do what the law requires. Their consciences witness to God’s will. He puts it like this: “They show that the work of the law is written on their hearts.”
So, here is my suggestion: “Knowing God” in Romans 1:21 includes this deeper heart experience of Romans 2:15. The analogy that I find helpful is to conceive of the innate knowledge of God and his will as a kind of template or mold in the human heart. This template is designed by God in every human heart with a shape, or a form, that corresponds to the glory of God. In other words, if the glory of God were seen with the eyes of the heart, it would fit the template so perfectly that we would know the glory is real. We would know we were made for this.
When Paul says that all humans “know God,” or that all humans have the work of the law “written on their hearts,” he means that there is a glory-shaped template in every heart waiting to receive the glory of God. We all “know God” in the sense that we have this witness in our hearts that we were made for this glory. There is a latent expectancy and longing, and the shape of it is buried deep in our souls.

Hearts Packed Hard

The reason we do not see the glory of God is not that the template is faulty or that God’s glory is not shining. The reason is “hardness of heart” (Ephesians 4:18). This hardness is a deep aversion to God, and a corresponding love for self-exaltation. Paul said that the mind-set of the flesh is hostile to God (Romans 8:7). And Jesus said that “light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light” (John 3:19).
Our problem is not that we lack the light, but that we love the dark. This is the hardness of our hearts.
So, in my analogy of the template, this means that the hollowed-out shapes of the mold, which are perfectly shaped for the all-satisfying glory of God, are instead packed hard with the love of other things. So, when the glory of God shines into the heart — from creation or incarnation or Jesus or the gospel — it finds no place. It is not felt or perceived as fitting.
To the natural mind — the mind whose glory-shaped mold is packed hard with idols — the glory of God is foolishness (1 Corinthians 2:14). It doesn’t fit. As Jesus said to those whose hardness pushed them to the point of murder, “You seek to kill me because my word finds no place in you” (John 8:37). Of course, they could construe his words, and remember his words. But they could not see them as glorious or compellingly beautiful.
They heard the words, but they did not love them. They loved the darkness that filled the template that was designed for the brightness of the glory of God.

Supernatural Excavation

If we are on the right track, the only hope for seeing the glory of God in Scripture is that God might cut away the diamond-hard, idolatrous substitutes for the glory of God that are packed into the template of our heart.
The Bible speaks of this supernatural act in many ways. For example, it describes this supernatural in-breaking as a shining into our hearts of divine glory (2 Corinthians 4:6), and as a granting of truth and repentance (2 Timothy 2:25), and as the giving of faith (Philippians 1:29), and as raising us from the dead (Ephesians 2:5), and as new birth by the word (1 Peter 1:23; James 1:18), and as the special revelation of the Father (Matthew 16:17) and the Son (Matthew 11:27), and as the enlightening of the eyes of the heart (Ephesians 1:18), and as being given the secret of the kingdom of God (Luke 8:10).
When this miracle happens to us, the glory of God cuts and burns and melts and removes from the template the suicidal cement of alien loves and takes its rightful place. We were made for this. And the witness of this glory to the authenticity of the Scriptures is overwhelming. Where we saw only foolishness before, we now see the all-satisfying beauty of God. God has done this — supernaturally.
No one merely decides to experience the Christian Scriptures as the all-compelling, all-satisfying truth of one’s life. Seeing is a gift. And so, the free embrace of God’s word is a gift. God’s Spirit opens the eyes of our heart, and what was once boring, or absurd, or foolish, or mythical is now self-evidently real.

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How to Grow Strong in Your Faith

In Romans 4, Paul tells us Abraham “grew strong in his faith” and urges us to walk in Abraham’s footsteps. To believe like he believed. How do we do this?

In hope he believed against hope, that he should become the father of many nations, as he had been told, “So shall your offspring be.” He did not weaken in faith when he considered his own body, which was as good as dead (since he was about a hundred years old), or when he considered the barrenness of Sarah’s womb. No unbelief made him waver concerning the promise of God, but he grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God, fully convinced that God was able to do what he had promised. (Romans 4:18–21)

Look to God’s promise not your circumstances.

In hope he believed against hope, that he should become the father of many nations

Abraham’s situation looked bleak. God promised him multitudes of descendants, but the only problem was he was well past child producing. “He considered his own body, which was as good as dead (since he was about a hundred years old).” He also considered the barrenness of Sarah’s womb. Not only was Abraham almost 100 years old, but Sarah his wife was very old, and she had never been able to have children her whole life. How are they going to have children? If Abraham had based his hope on his circumstances he would have given up. But In hope he believed against hope—God’s promise gave him hope in his hopeless situation. He put his hope in God’s promise, not his circumstances.
We may feel hopelessly unrighteous. We may feel like God could never forgive us for the sins we have committed, that he would never accept us. But we must not look at ourselves, just like Abraham didn’t look at himself, but like Abraham, we must believe God’s promise of grace. He counts me righteous in Christ!
Our teenager may seem hopelessly lost. Our finances may be out of control. We may lack direction for our lives. Our marriage might be frustrating or our church might be a mess. Look to Jesus Christ! Don’t look to yourself. Look to the promise of the gospel—everyone who believes in him shall be saved. Look to his promises to draw near to those who draw near to him. Promises to hear and answer our prayers.
Give glory to God

No unbelief made him waver concerning the promise of God, but he grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God, fully convinced that God was able to do what he had promised. (20–21)

Abraham strengthened his faith. Here’s how: “He grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God.” Begin to give glory to God—start thanking and praising him for his every promise. Thank him for saving you and declaring you righteous in him. He has promised to be with us when we pass through the waters and walk through fire. He has promised to never leave us nor forsake us. He has promised that nothing will be able to separate us from his love. He has promised to give us everything we truly need to glorify him. He has promised that we can do all things he requires through Christ who loves us. Praise him for these things!
We can look to our circumstances—it may not LOOK like God is being faithful. It may not FEEL like God is with us in these waters. It may FEEL like he has abandoned or forsaken us. We may not SENSE his love. But WE MUST NOT WAVER CONCERNING THE PROMISE OF GOD! Rather, we grow strong in our faith as we GIVE GLORY TO GOD, as we are fully convinced that God is able to do what he had promised.
In Ps 43 the Psalmist says “Why are you cast down O my soul? Hope in God for I shall yet praise him.” Keep thanking God, keep praising him in faith in the midst of your hard times. Say, “Jesus thank you that you are with me. Thank you have promised that your steadfast love never ceases. Praise you that your mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness.”
Growing stronger in our faith is not complicated. Look to God’s promise and glorify him. So, what are you going to believe today—God’s word or your circumstances? God’s promises or your feelings? God’s bedrock pledge of faithfulness or your wavering emotions? Walk in the footsteps of Abraham and strengthen your faith.

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Better Than Busy

The cry of our age is “busy.”

How are you? “Busy.”

How’s work? “Busy.”

How are the kids doing? “Their lives are so busy. I feel like I’m just a taxi driver.”

How was the shopping mall today? “Too busy.”

Can you help me? “I’m busy at the moment.”

The fast-paced busyness of life that pushes God to the margins can easily turn into burnout. Lots of us are crying out for ways of handling the busyness before it does.

Yet expectations of keeping up with everything continually escalate, courtesy of Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, Netflix, and the rest. We are all susceptible to the expectation that we always are available, aware of everything that is happening, and capable of achieving anything. Unsurprisingly, this demand to be omnipresent, omniscient, and omnipotent places pressure on all of us, whatever our level of social media dexterity.

Add some more ingredients — inadequate sleep, poor dietary habits, caffeine addiction, the urge to project our preferred identity, a sedentary lifestyle — and we have the perfect recipe for unremitting anxiety and restlessness.

But each of us is, if you like, the chief cook in our own kitchen. We can choose to rethink the ingredients we stir into the mix of life that leave us feeling bloated and stressed rather than nourished and sustained. The 24/7 hustle and bustle is of our own making, at least to some extent. Just as people go on detox diets, we would do well to heed calls for digital detox and reconsider how much we try to pack into life. A good starter is the practical suggestions for a twelve-step digital detox by Tony Reinke, followed with the richly nourishing poetry of Wendell Berry’s This Day.

The futile attempt to sustain ourselves by our own efforts is not new. Our digital age simply offers new manifestations of the age-old temptation to usurp God’s role for ourselves. But against this age-old temptation, God offers an age-old response: what would happen to our 24/7 switched-on world if the people who came to Jesus for rest (Matthew 11:28) regularly took a day of rest from distraction, work, and busyness? What would this weekly habit have to offer to the world in which we find ourselves — a world that restlessly continues to search for peace amid busyness?

1. Taking a weekly day of rest is a sign that we desire God.

Taking one day a week to cease our strivings and focus on God shouts out that we desire God above status, financial reward, promotion in the workplace, achievement, and all other things that would distract us from the one we love.

Not taking time with someone we love when given the chance is a sure sign of diminished desire to be with them, to reflect together on the good times spent together in the past, and to consider what the future holds. When we specifically and intentionally set a day a week aside to focus on the Lord, as the old covenant people of God were commanded to do as they journeyed (Exodus 16:23, 25), we signal to the world that our hearts belong to him.

Treasuring a day of rest and worship lets people know where our heart lies.

2. Taking a weekly day of rest is a sign that we trust God.

Taking one day a week to let go of our endeavors to survive the present and prepare for the future shows that we trust God that his provision for the present is adequate and his promise for the future is sure.

When we have a weekly rhythm of a day of rest, we stand alongside the old covenant saints who trusted God to provide for their needs (Exodus 16:22–30). We stand alongside Jesus, who rejected Satan’s attempt to convince him to look after his own needs, by recalling that we live not on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord (Matthew 4:4).

We live with integrity as people who pray “give us this day our daily bread” (Matthew 6:11), and then trust God to do it. As finite creatures, we declare our trust in the resources of the infinite Creator, who provides us with every blessing (Ephesians 1:3; 1 Timothy 6:17). When we commit to enjoy a weekly day of rest in the busiest seasons of life (see Exodus 34:21), we declare our trust in God even more loudly.

3. Taking a weekly day of rest proclaims Christ’s supremacy.

Taking one day a week to loosen our hearts’ grip on our own achievements clears space for remembering and reminding each other of Christ’s achievements. Everything we cannot do, even with endless striving, Christ has done already. In our rest, we proclaim that he has fulfilled the requirement of perfect obedience to his Father (Romans 8:3–4). We proclaim that he has provided the true rest our pursuit of leisure activities and restless sleep cannot provide (Matthew 11:28–30).

Since those who die in the Lord will rest from their hard labor (Revelation 14:13), resting one day a week now helps us to remember and prepare for that future, when at the name of Jesus every knee will bow and every tongue confess he is Lord (Philippians 2:10–11). We declare that our ambition is much bigger than career progression, or status elevation, or completing earthly tasks — it is to make Christ known.

4. Taking a weekly day of rest declares our freedom.

Freeing one day a week from the tyranny of the urgent and the never-finished to-do list reminds us and those around us that we are no longer slaves. The original recipients of the command to rest one day in seven were reminded that the Lord rescued them from slavery in Egypt (Deuteronomy 5:15). But for Israel — and for us — redemption from physical bondage was merely a picture of the greater freedom from sin and death (Romans 6:15–23). We see more clearly than did Israel that we “were called to freedom” (Galatians 5:13), and therefore our cause for remembrance and celebration is greater.

We take a day of rest not by obligation, but out of a greater desire to pause, to remember, to look forward, and to worship. Declaring that we freely choose to celebrate freedom is a message sorely needed by those who are enslaved to the obligations of busyness and who feel like they cannot escape the tyranny of burnout.

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spend eternity

"Not every good thing you spend eternity, 

if you get used to the mind and 

if you do not appreciate".

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Who are you really?

Who are you really?

Here is an excerpt from a lecture given by Alan Watts, a British philosopher, writer and speaker. He has written over 25 books and numerous articles on subjects such as personal identity, the true nature of reality, higher consciousness, meaning of life.

here are four levels of consciousness:

1. Unconscious unconsciousness

At this stage you are not even aware that you are unconscious. You attract negative things into your life at a rapid pace, as if you have developed a negative ball of energy rolling downhill. Nothing is ever your fault and you are always looking for someone to blame.

2. Conscious unconsciousness

Here you become aware of your negative thinking and the consequences that it might bring. You might see your negative pattern and what it is that you are attracting. You may not like what you are attracting, but you have taken responsibility for it.

3. Conscious consciousness

You deliberately decide to focus pure and positive thought on something and remove all resistance to its arrival. And, sure enough, it arrives. Your creation might be something as simple as visualizing a parking space opening up for you at the mall. You deliberately intended it, allowed it to come to you and acknowledged it when it arrives.

4. Unconscious consciousness

When you get to this point, you do not have to work so hard to create things in your life. You are a believer in how the mind game is played and you spend conscious time each day making your mind important. New creations come to you easily and quickly. You have built a positive ball of energy that continues to roll forward in your favour.

Using your mind to attract your reality is actually very simple.

Make your thoughts important

Most people randomly shrug off their thoughts as not being important. They often get stuck thinking the same old negative thoughts all day long and cannot see the relationship between what they are thinking and what is happening in their life.

Three ways of attracting

1. Direct asking

You are angry that you have a beat up old car and every day you proclaim how much you despise this car and wish someone would just come along and crash into it to get rid of it. Lo and behold, you are involved in a traffic accident and your car is destroyed. You act surprised when this event transpires and you move into blame and anger. You believe wholeheartedly that it must be the other driver’s fault for not paying closer attention.

2. Fear

You might have heard stories of how wild animals are attracted to fear so if you are approached by one do not run or act afraid. The Law of Attraction works the very same way. If you are afraid of catching some dreaded disease you are attracting it to you. If you are afraid of financial failure you are attracting it. Whatever you are afraid of has a good chance of coming closer to you because your thoughts—both positive and negative—are like magnets.

3. Vibrational alignment

Emotional alignment is important when attracting. Imagine leaving the house feeling like a victim. Why does it surprise you when you spill coffee on yourself? This only matches a vibration that you were already experiencing. Like attracts more of the same. A vibration of negativity will bring more negativity your way, whereas a vibrational attitude of positivity will attract positive results.

Mental obesity

Imagine what life would be like if you were physically 300 pounds overweight? What would it be like to travel on an airplane, to walk up and down stairs and even go to the bathroom?

Most people’s minds are 300 pounds overweight, out of shape and their life is filled with struggle and blame. They are in denial that there is a problem (as are many physically obese people) and they do nothing to try to change the situation. If you were physically obese you might start slowly making small changes—dietary adjustments, beginning a walking program, etc.

Mental shaping up is no different. Begin by imagining all the lights turning green when you are driving down the road or the perfect parking space is waiting for you at the grocery store. Small steps add up to big changes.

Blame

If there are two words that should be eliminated from the English language they are “victim” and “survivor.” You hear these powerful words over and over again, in the media, through so-called “support” groups and from the people in the street. There are no victims and there are no survivors. There are only conscious choosers or unconscious choosers. When you become an unconscious chooser you often remain in a state of blame. It is always somebody else’s fault that your life isn’t perfect. People will blame the poor economy for their own lack of financial success. Yet, there are many who are thriving in this same “poor economy.” Most of these thrivers will tell you that they are not interested in listening to the scarcity-minded pundits on television, but choose their own path to prosperity. They are consciously choosing their thinking.

Sabotage

Why would someone deliberately choose to develop a horrible disease or have bad things happen to them? The answer is simple. We all have a part of ourselves that is frozen in sabotage. Not everyone wants to feel well or to be wealthy. We invest a great amount of time and thought on sabotage and it manifests. You have heard the expression, “if you go looking for trouble, trouble will find you.”

At one time or another children will “develop” a cold or sickness to avoid a situation, like going to school or visiting a relative. The child’s thoughts are powerful enough to change the physical body so the child can escape a situation that he or she does not know how to handle (e.g. a test, a bully, etc.).

As adults, our thoughts continue to sabotage our lives—from putting on weight to financial hardships. If you are not thriving then your thoughts are actively involved in sabotaging your success. You have invested in sabotage just as the sick child feels a benefit by not having to attend school.

Many people create illnesses to rest, take a break from life, to be taken care of by others, or to avoid an uneasy situation. Instead of learning to find the tools to resolve these conflicts, becoming sick is the easiest way out. One could make the argument that hospitals are filled with people who are choosing illness as a way of escape from a mental conflict that they are unable to resolve. Yes, your mind is that powerful and there are no exceptions.

Children and illnesses

It might be difficult to understand why a child would choose to get sick and die. What we do not realize is that children too are thinking and creating their reality. And they are learning their thought patterns from those of their parents and peers.

A story appeared in a local newspaper of a fourteen-year-old boy who mysteriously and “accidentally” hung himself while playing on a makeshift backyard rope course that he had built. Many people assumed this to be a horrible accident, but they did not know the story behind this.

Two days before his death the teenager was kicked off the freshman football team at school. He was devastated. He felt his life was over. The expulsion from the team caused him so much despair that he didn’t believe he could go on. He felt trapped and helpless and wanted relief from his suffering. His mind created a situation where he would find relief and still save face, as his death would look like an accident.

Conclusion

We are all looking for relief from conflict. If we do not believe that we can resolve the conflict externally, we frequently create a situation that resolves itself internally. This is often seen in sports. When an athlete is not performing well or has an off-the-field conflict, he frequently suffers an injury. While the injury might be real (a pulled hamstring or a stiff back), the mind was busily at work creating the situation. Fans would more likely support a player if he were injured than if he were having marital problems at home. After all, an athlete is expected to leave his personal issues off the field or court.

You do not have to believe in the Law of Attraction for it to be at work.

Just like you do not have to understand or have knowledge of gravity, it is still working. Step off a balcony of a two-storey building and whether you believe in gravity or not, you will come crashing to the ground. Most people create by default, meaning that they are not aware of what their thoughts are and hence take no responsibility when their thoughts manifest.

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”—Albert Einstein.

If you do not learn how to play the game then the game will play you.

We are talking about the mind game going on inside of you. When you are an unconscious attractor of your reality you often become a victim and are stuck in blame. This is when the game is playing you.

A mind in a state of appreciation is a mind creating positive results. A mind looking for someone or something to blame is a mind creating more sabotage and chaos. It doesn’t matter whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not; the power of the mind is still at work and the results will be felt.

Wouldn’t it be better to learn to focus your thoughts and realize all the dreams you have dreamed for so long

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For those who are new to conscious thinking, the idea that your thoughts create your reality might be as whimsical as a leopard running free through the city streets. But, the Law of Attraction is not some New Age, airy-fairy idea, it is a fundamental concept. To those who have had some experience with this law, these words will be refreshing and fulfilling; it’s not new to them, it’s a reminder of what they already know.

"When I look up at the night sky, and I know that, yes, we are part of this Universe, we are in this Universe, but perhaps more important than both of those facts is that the Universe is in us. When I reflect on that fact, I look up—many people feel small, ’cause they’re small and the Universe is big, but I feel big, because my atoms came from those stars.”

Astrophysicist Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson was asked by a reader of TIME magazine, “What is the most astounding fact you can share with us about the Universe?” This is his answer:

Your thoughts do indeed create your reality. Thoughts are forms of energy that are sent ahead and eventually manifest as physical matter. The thoughts you think determine the outcome of your worldly experiences, from finances to health, relationships to environment. In fact, there is no aspect of your life that is not affected by your thoughts. As Albert Einstein once said, “Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.”

Most of us have been taught to be sloppy thinkers. We remain frozen in worry or defeated by fear. We believe that we have become victims of our circumstances. As our thoughts remain negative or mostly unconscious, we end up attracting by default. We are stunned when we develop a horrible disease, become involved in a tragic car accident or suffer financial failure. Without realizing it, the thoughts we have been thinking are all responsible for this.

The ability to focus a thought is the driving force behind The Law of Attraction. Focusing on a single thought purely and clearly for a short duration of time is the starting point.

The emotion behind the words matters more than the words.

The Universe works on vibration. Everything is vibration first and matter second. When you feel an affirming emotion while focusing thought, you are creating dynamic change. Pure thought with positive emotion is said to be the equivalent of 2000 action hours. The problem that many people run into is that they pretend to be positive on the outside, but are really vibrating negatively on the inside. They might not even be aware of what it is they are doing.

The Law of Attraction is so powerful that it trumps all other laws and forces in the Universe. It never takes time off or breaks and it is always working. It supersedes science, viruses, bacteria, pathogens, parasites, natural disasters, bad luck, heredity, genetics, chance, random, poor diet, too much sugar, astrology, numerology, tea leaves and psychology. Under The Law of Attraction, there are no odds, and statistics are meaningless.

Nothing happens by mistake. The thoughts you think create your reality.

There are two primary forces in the Universe—allowing and resisting. If your manifestation has not yet arrived it is only because you are resisting it. Here is how this works. Imagine driving your car with one foot on the gas pedal and one foot on the brake at the same time. Your car might be moving forward but there will be quite a bit of resistance along the way, not to mention the damage done to the brakes. Most people become frustrated and stop believing in the power of their own thoughts only because they have unconsciously placed great resistance in front of their dreams. Frustration will pull you even more into the negative thinking mode and create more upheaval in the Law of Attraction.

Let’s say that you desire to have a particular apartment you fell in love with at first sight. This is a positive thought manifestation. You are now in a state of creation and allowing. You then begin to worry about how complicated it will be to negotiate the lease. You imagine that you will have a problem with the landlady, or the neighbours may be noisy. Now you are in a state of resistance. Your foot is sharply pressing down on the brakes in your vibrational world. This is why your creation has not yet arrived.

When you are in a state of judgment you are also in a state of resistance. Imagine that you want an easy life where you did not have to work so hard to get by. You keep yourself in a state of resistance when you judge others who already have an easy life where they do not have to work so hard. You cannot belong to a club where you despise the current members. If you want your manifestations to arrive you must already be a vibrational match to them. Festering in a state of judgment is just pushing your desires away.

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Vyakula 4 bora kwa wanawake

Wanawake wengi wanaokaribia ukomo wa hedhi au waliokoma hedhi tayari(menopause) hukosa hamu ya tendo la ndoa.

Wataalamu wa afya wameshauri vyakula vinavyoweza kuwapa wanawake hamu  ya tendo la ndoa.

Mtaalamu wa Saikolojia wa Uingereza, Cassie Bjork, anasema badala ya kutumia dawa (Viagra) vya kuongeza hamu ya tendo la ndoa kuna vyakula maalum.

Spinachi
 
Wataalamu hao wanasema mboga ya majani aina ya spinachi ina wingi wa madini ya magnesium ambayo husaidia kusambaza damu kwenye mirija. Damu inaposambaa vyema mwilini hata hamu ya tendo la ndoa huongezeka.

Bjork anasema kula kwa wingi mboga hizo kunamsaidia mwanamke hata kufikia kilele.

Chai ya Kijani (Green tea)
 
Chai ya kijani ina kompaundi iitwayo catechins. Hii inaelezwa kuwa inasaidia kuyeyusha mafuta mwilini. Lakini pia inalisaidia ini  kuchuja sumu na kuisaidia mishipa ya damu kufanya kazi vizuri. Damu ikitembea vyema mwilini, ni rahisi kwa mwanamke kujisikia hamu ya tendo.

 Mafuta ya samaki
 
 Zipo aina nyingi za mafuta ya samaki. Lakini mafuta ya samaki wenye asidi ya Omega-3 yana virutubisho ambavyo huongeza kiwango cha ‘dopamine’ kwenye ubongo.

 Dopamine ni eneo la ubongo linalofanya kazi ya kudhibiti faraja na hisia.  Kama dopamine itaongezeka basi mwanamke hujisikia kuridhika anapokuwa na mwenza wake.

Chokoleti
 
 Pamoja na utamu wake, lakini ‘chocolate’ ina virutubisho na madini ya magnesium ambayo humfanya mwanamke kuridhika. Pia huufanya ubongo wa mwanamke kutulia kwa kuondoa msongo wa mawazo. Msongo wa mawazo ukiisha ni rahisi kwa mwanamke kupata hamu ya tendo la ndoa.

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